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A reader recently contributed another comment to the article " When Women Test Men. In one way, I sympathize. It's no fun feeling like other people are putting you under a microscope, examining you, and that you're being inspected to see if you meet their requirements. However, the element of learning how to automatically pass the tests you see from women - that's things like:.
And when you're first learning how to deal with tests, they can be hard, and they can be confusing, and they can make you feel helpless, and they are not a lot of fun.
But, is it perhaps possible to just skip learning how to deal with all these feminine things, and just screen for and get women who don't act like this? Can you opt not to learn game Everywhere you go, everything you do, and everyone you meet is testing you.
Your teammates in your sports league test you to see how good you are, and where you fall in Unknown Artist - Romantic Aires social hierarchy. Your employees test you to see how well you'll take care of them, how much you know about what you're doing, and to what degree they can get away with things. Your children, when you have them, test you to find out where the limits are, how well you're listening to them, and how able they are to use you to get the things they themselves cannot get.
And women test you, to see how attractive you really are, how strong you really are, and how secure you really are. These tests never go away - not from anybody - although they do die down as a relationship matures. However, if you start showing new behavior, or signs of weakness, or failing to do something you used to do, those tests move right back to the fore again.
Likewise, YOU are constantly testing everyone and everything around you Is this because you, everyone around you, and everybody else scattered across this globe are DJ G-I-S & Bad Matter - Savage (Technical Itch Remix) / Head Choppage, bad people? If you knew everything there was to know, there'd be no point in your reading of this article There are some things I know that you do not, and there are some things you know that I do not.
These things are NOT things that you can know by asking someone. Because most of the time, he or she will tell you what you want to hear, Shes All I Need - Game - Game give you an autopilot response. And you will frequently be unable to discern lies from truth from unthinking standard responses. You will assume you have the truth - know you have the truth - right up until the moment you find out you had it wrong.
And the only way for anyone to know more about you than what you yourself want to let on, or that you yourself are even consciously aware of? If I asked them to help me with something I was doing - some extra cleanup work, or organizing things better - I'd get told they were "busy", or I'd hear "that's not my job. My ambition and initiative quickly caught the eyes of my superiors, and I would quickly wind up in a management Shes All I Need - Game - Gamewhile those people who started before me would still be in the same place they were when I arrived.
And when, as a manager, I'd ask them to do some extra cleanup or organizational work, I'd again often be told they were busy, or that was not their job. Shes All I Need - Game - Game of whether they were my colleagues or my direct reports, these attitudes always really got to me. Not always because I needed their help - often I didn't, although sometimes we would have customers on the hook and they'd just be standing around, maddeningly - but often because I looked at them, and saw that they could be leading better lives, with more opportunity, more freedom, more happiness, more personal fulfillment Whenever I hear anyone throw his hands up and refuse to make himself attractive to women and learn game to properly interact with women, all I hear is "that's not my job.
And really - truthfully - from a purely technical standpoint, it isn't. But I sure don't want to hear about it when you come to me complaining that you don't have what you want in life.
Thing about these people is, they always do complain. They're always trapped in victim mentalityand they want everyone around them to know how unfair it is how everybody treats them. And the world itself? It just keeps on turning. It doesn't notice their self-imposed plight - nor does it care. And why should it or we? They don't care about bending Along The Way - Noxinixon - Noxinixon the world You must give to get.
Yet, the people who have the least interest in learning how to accommodate others are always so upset that others have so little interest in accommodating them. All this "game" stuff is just for picking up girls in bars and nightclubsright? Isn't it just for party girls? Real girls don't need game, do they? You can just go be yourself and they will love you for it! The term "game" probably doesn't help anyway. Why should you learn "game" when you don't want to PLAY games?
Only, much of what you learn game to do is NOT playing games. In Hollywood, it's only those horrible sleazy women our nice guy protagonist never should've dated or married in the first place that need "game" They're social ladder climbersand just generally bad, dishonest people whose ideas about the world are all screwed up. Shes All I Need - Game - Game then - just in our hero's moment of desperation - then comes the nice GIRL!
And unlike those terrible "game" girls, the nice girl does not require game at all. In fact, she chases after our kind-hearted protagonist herselfloving him just the way he is, in all his vanilla-flavored Everyman glory. I have a female friend who does this, actually. She's beautiful, intelligent, successful in her career, full of life and energy, and is in many ways a child of innocence, purity, and joie de vivre. Her boyfriends are usually star-struck to get her; she told me that her most recent boyfriend - an unspectacular-looking college professor with his own successful company and a highly religious background with very limited dating experience - glows with pride over having her as his girlfriend, telling her that she's the most beautiful woman he's ever dated and that it's like he's dating a model or an actress.
He moved slow with her, and it took him 5 or 6 months to take her to bed. He has no idea his princess has a long history of sleeping with lots and lots of men, was sleeping Shes All I Need - Game - Game lots and lots of men while they were going on platonic dates, and has Shes All I Need - Game - Game history of growing rather bored of nice guys with good careers like him after a few months and breaking up with them to be free again Pink Floyd - On The Turning Away friend is not a bad person.
She's a good person. She really cares about people and likes helping people. But she's not stable or long-term monogamous in relationships - she loves sex, loves being single, and loves hooking up with lots of different men. Her boyfriends usually do not know this, though, and probably would not believe it if you told it to them. She is also a fair template for the kinds of women you do not need game with:.
Probing and testing is a security-seeking behavior from women who are not in control, when you ARE. Interestingly enough, this "zero game" template woman very often is the kind of woman that "rescues" those nice guys in Hollywood films. They frequently don't show you the girl's background or dating history, but personality-wise, she's a match. Women who are this way behave almost exactly like those women in film do: they're impulsive, they handle the approaching, they're the ones pushing things forward, they don't test the guy much, they open the guy's eyes up and make him see the world in ways he never Shes All I Need - Game - Game before.
And the guy is the one who's soft, needy, and emotionally attached. And he doesn't need to learn game to get her; he can just be himself, and she'll find him. I've seen a lot of these women, and I've slept with Snorkel Blaster - Various - Generations lot of these women, and I've been contacted by some of the disbelieving and disillusioned boyfriends and husbands afterward.
It's a very consistent trend. But aside from not showing the progression of the relationship, maybe Hollywood isn't too far off the mark after all. Ever see an attractive older married couple that clearly still has a strong relationship together? The woman keeps herself looking good, and has a youthfulness about her that's uncommon in older women.
The man has an impressive air about himself, also youthful, and one of power and dominance and a bit of humor. Across the board, you'll notice the woman ball-busting the husband. She's testing him; she's still playing the game, even though it's 30 years later. As for him, he responds to her busting his stones with deft maneuvers; sometimes responding with self-deprecating humor, and other times lobbing a good-natured parry right back her way.
The game goes on. She continues to test Canto De Ossanha - Baden Powell - Série Autógrafos De Sucesso. Those are the tests and games you see in evidence. There are also the tests that go on behind closed doors - the relationship trials and tribulations that inevitably arise, when the couple falls on hard times, or the wife starts feeling bored, or the husband starts acting distant.
Drama arises - and then, he deals with it. Because somewhere along the way in this game of life, this man figured out how. He may have learned from a mentor or friend, or, more Shes All I Need - Game - Gamehe figured it out on his own, as some men do, because he's high on empathy and knows how to tap into what it is women wantwhat they're feeling, and what they're really after with him when they start putting pressure on him one way or another.
But why? If she likes you, shouldn't she not test you? And once you have learned game - once you know how to respond to tests - and once you are fully self-contained as the kind of man whom others respect, admire, or even bow down to You are beyond it; you just do what must be done instinctively, and your woman and anyone else who sees fit to probe you is relieved: you are a powerful man.
And that is what women are looking for when they test you. Before I continue to trust you, to commit to you, to throw my lot in with you any further - are you Shes All I Need - Game - Game as strong and powerful and masculine as I need you to be? How you respond is how you set women at ease that yes, you really are what you say you are If you never take the time to learn game - and if you're not the sort who will naturally figure it out on your own - you will forever live a life of unhappy squabbles and disappointed women.
That is the damnation reserved for the man who refuses to empathize with women, to learn what they want, and to take pains to become it: he must necessarily always be what women do not want. And really, would you want it any other way? Would you want for yourself a woman who did not care if she was with a man who was going to waste her time, be weak, and give her weak offspring?
Would you want her to be with you because it was not special, and she was willing to settle for anyone? The problem that most of these men who balk at game and decry women for Skybird - Tony Orlando & Dawn - Skybird is that they're idealists - they think that women should just know how awesome they are without having to test or probe.
Women should just trust them.
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